Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Lonely Girl Amnesia: When settling seems like the only option

For as long as I've been living in Florida, I have always considered Halloween to be the first day of Fall.

(I can probably thank all of my memories of freezing my butt off on Halloween night by wearing some cute, but slightly skimpy, "costume" for that).

So seeing that it is Halloween, the nights are getting cooler, the winds have really begun to blow, and women are becoming unmistakably desperate.

We have Cuffing Season to blame for this sudden change of attitude.

During this time of year, women are desperate for the following:
  • Male attention
  • A man to sleep with at night
  • A man to spend the upcoming winter with
  • A man
All in all, the cold weather makes women feel as though their comforter, along with that hot cup of tea, isn't enough to keep them warm anymore; and so the hunt for another willing, warm body begins.

It probably doesn't help that this time of year, more and more couples come from backstage and display their love front and center, awaiting their applause from the crowd for finding someone just as desperate as they are. 

(Not taking into consideration that the audience they are preforming for have been in the crowd since curtain call and witnessed the breakups, cheating scandals, and relentless amounts of "I love him. I hate him." facebook statuses).

How is it that a woman can be wrong about the same man so many different times but always in the same way?

This disorder is called: Lonely Girl Amnesia.
When a woman conveniently forgets all of the drama, bad experiences, and differences that occurred between her and a guy because of the need to feel better about choosing to be with someone over being alone.

I've seen this disorder countless amount of times disguised as "things are just complicated with us" from women who claim to not be settling but instead, trying to "work things out".

The more women who use these excuses, the more women who become content with settling.

The reason people date is to find someone who they are compatible with, not to find someone who you would be willing to tolerate throughout the winter cold.

We need to go back to the old days where settling isn't the new "relationship status" and where tolerating isn't the new happy.

If you want to be in a relationship with a good man then wait for that good man.

Use the waiting period as an opportunity to spend time with yourself.

Many women don't consider being alone as an option which is why they either jump at the first male opportunity or back track to the past.

The past is in the past for a reason. You don't want your prince charming to walk right by you because your relationship status is secretly screaming SETTLING.

Time is of the essence and so is waiting on a good man.

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