Sex: It's complicated, but it's worth it

A guy once told me that sex complicates a relationship, changes the focus of the relationship, and it brings you two closer to having a deeper relationship. So I decided to break down each stage of a relationship to see if it's even worth it in the end.

Sex can complicate a relationship by inviting new feelings along for the ride (no pun intended).

For example, you two may agree on taking things slow and just see where they go but ironically enough, the minute you begin to have sex, those "I like him" feelings begin to transform into "nobody else can touch him because he's mine" feelings.

Now things get complicated because a second ago you were content with just "going with the flow" and now you're focused on trying to direct that flow in a certain direction which brings up the next point.

Sex changing the focus of the relationship.

The main focus should always be getting to know as much about the other person as possible. The more you know, the more you like or dislike the person; regardless of which one it is, you're never at a standstill.

You are constantly bringing new amounts of emotions to the relationship (love, excitement, hope, compassion, pride).

Sex uncontrollably changes the focus of a relationship.

You no longer care why his grandparents aren't happily married, for the time being, you're now thinking about the next time you two are going to have sex. Suddenly his past sexual partners are of great importance to you, and something keeps nudging you, trying to get you to ask the infamous question "where is this going."

In the end, sex ultimately brings the two of you into a deeper relationship (whether you want it or not) because of all of these factors so it is worth it.